It's okay.

I guess it's hard to understand if thoughts slip why it would affect someone if it's not your fault.

I mean, it's not like you literally wanted "to do that."  It's just something you were thinking of anyway.

Oh, so, it's not really okay.

There's a reason I'm not affected by it, and I guess it's because I've had to deal with it and was brought into it like wading in the water.

I find that sometimes younger people are more violent and appraised for doing so.  I suppose, most people are brought up not to think bad thoughts.  I have learned that that does matter.  That is a sin.  You can't want to do that.  You can say to yourself, oh this word bothers me.   It doesn't have to be associated with other people.